Infant and Child Cremation Urns
by Wendy Jacobson
Image by Ray Hennessey*
“The pain of losing a child is not something you can explain. It follows you around like a gray cloud above your head but you have to choose to see the sunlight on the cloudiest of days.” - Tracy (Originally published on Facesofloss.com*)
The death of a baby is unimaginable and unbearable. Heartbreak over the loss of a precious being who you love more than anything in the world brings a paralyzing shock. The event disrupts the natural order of life when a child dies before a parent. Sadly, countless people experience such grief every day.
While in the throes of such emotion, arranging a baby funeral and deciding on a small urn for a sweet angel who left the earth much too soon might feel like an excruciating exercise. And it is. Hopefully in time, a ray of sunshine - perhaps from a memory - will surface during an incredibly dark time.
Cremation, considerations, and decisions
If you have decided on cremation for your baby or child, there are a few considerations and decisions to be made, such as:
- How it will feel to receive the ashes after cremation
- Whether to bury the cremation ashes or keep them in an urn in the home
- How it might feel to see the keepsake or baby urn containing the ashes every day
- Whether to keep the ashes in an infant cremation urn or to keep a small portion in infant loss jewelry, or both
Of course, these are decisions that only the parents can make, and making them can seem like an insurmountable task. Displaying a cremation urn in the home brings a sense of comfort and closeness to the deceased for many surviving family members. Yet for others, the physical reminder is difficult to bear on a day-to-day basis, especially initially.
Even before displaying the ashes comes the moment when you receive a phone call informing you that the ashes are ready to be picked up. Our blog, “What to Expect When You Receive Cremation Ashes,” provides insight around this tender issue.
For parents suddenly forced to think about these scenarios, resources are available to help them with their journey. In addition to talking with your partner and a spiritual advisor, other parents have found assistance through Facesofloss.com and babylosscomfort.com/. These are only two of several websites where parents share stories of loss, and gain support from each other, and find valuable resources.
Infant Cremation Urns
And if you decide that you’d like to keep some – or all – of the cremation ashes at home, you’ll find there are many cremation urn suppliers who carry small urns and have helpful remembrance ideas. For instance, a small urn such as the Going Home Cremation Urn for Infants provides a shimmer of grace. The urn is hand etched with birds that represent a link between heaven and earth.
The exclusive Bunny’s Love collection captures a child’s innocence and playfulness. The bunny on each urn is handmade making each one unique. These urns are available in terra cotta and in sapphire. They can be engraved with up to three lines of text, providing ample room for baby’s name, birthday and a special message. They hold the ashes of a baby or child up to 30 pounds.
Through the unique way that you choose to memorialize your little one, his or her imprint left on this world and in your heart, while all too brief, will endure with vividness.
*Image can be found here: http://bit.ly/babyloss
Wendy Jacobson is a freelance writer living in Minneapolis with her husband, two kids and dog. She helped market her mother’s book, “Hands Off My Hope: Life Lessons on my Journey with Breast Cancer” at the request of her mom, who died two weeks after publishing it in 2008. She also is the editor of Minneapolis Happening, a digital lifestyle magazine about what’s happening in Minneapolis and the surrounding area.