The Language of Cremation Urns
Color, Material, and Symbols
by J. Malec
Many people have heard of the language of flowers. Is there a similar language encoded in the colors, materials and symbols of a cremation urn? How do we attribute meaning to a specific color or material when deciding on a cremation urn?
To express my love, I might buy my partner red roses; or to honor a friend’s loyalty and trust I might buy her yellow flowers. Color carries an implied meaning, as does material selection or choice of symbol. The combined visual stimulus creates a language unique to a chosen or created urn.
Commonly understood associations with color, material and symbolism can be applied to memorial urn selection. As a result, we may find that we closely identify the urn with the story of our loved one. This allows the vessel to serve as a fond reminder of the life it represents. The urn then poignantly provides a place of honor for special memories to rest in our home.
The language of urn colors
Let’s look at the significance of color. Each culture has specific attributes commonly assigned to color. The website Color Wheel Pro provides color analysis that is familiar in western cultures. Each color’s attributes may resemble your interpretation of the color and how you personally associate with these hues. Although a general understanding of color significance is shared culturally, each individual has his or her own unique way of experiencing color.
The color yellow may allude to the first house you bought with your partner, or the color of a loved-one’s hair. You may wish to preserve this association by choosing a memorial urn in the exact shade that would encode and stimulate these memories. Black might reflect the pressed tuxedo worn at a wedding, or the formal dress of someone who was a professional musician.
An Urns Material Language
Another language to explore when choosing an urn is that of material selection. Cremation urns can be made out of almost anything imaginable. Each material has qualities that may speak to an element in one’s life story. Perhaps your sweetie loved the ocean and a mother of pearl urn seems like the best way to honor her memory. Or, for an environmentally conscious friend, a biodegradable Himalayan salt urn could feel spot on.
When trying to choose an appropriate color or material for a memorial urn, close your eyes and allow vivid memories to surface. Think of your loved one’s hobbies, home or recreational interests – did he always wear a certain color? Did she furnish a home in a traditional or contemporary style? Take some notes for later use. This may help to solidify associations and help you choose the perfect memorial vessel to embrace your loved one’s story.
The Symbolism and Function for Urns
Another layer of meaning that may be comforting is to employ symbols that reflect the interests, occupation or proudest moments of a loved one. If he or she served in the military, a memorial urn that can double as a display case for the American flag may be appropriate. Special cremation urns even incorporate functions such as a timepiece, votive light or even a digital photo frame.
Everyone has a story. Help preserve and share that story by thoughtfully choosing an urn or keepsake that speaks to your loved one’s memory. If you are making advance preparations for yourself, you might wish to specify some of the associations that are most meaningful to you as a part of making your own story known. Use the experience of finding the right cremation urn as an exercise in fond remembrance.
J. Malec is a visual artist and writer whose work often deals with themes related to loss and healing. She lives in Minneapolis, and spends much of her time practicing permaculture in the city.